“What is personal success?”
You may not ask yourself this question every day. However, I am sure you, just like me, often wonder if you are really successful. Different people measure success by different means. You may measure it:
- according to your bank balance;
- the car you drive;
- your social standing etc.
Whatever your standard of measurement is, I believe that nobody aspire to lead an unsuccessful life.
So how do you determine your personal success?
Personal Success is Personal
The first key to find a standard to measure your personal success is to stop comparing yourself with those around you. What other people may define as success is 9 out of 10 times not the same for you. The second key in finding your personal success, is tucked away in two uniquely human endowments:
- self-analysis and
Defining Personal Success
Defining your personal success is not an event or once off task. You should approach it as a journey. The outcome of your journey is determining the personal legacy you want to leave, once you have served your time on this earth. A popular self-analysis tool used in assisting during this process is the “Attending Your Own Funeral” exercise. Without being too morbid, imagine yourself at your own funeral. Using your ability of self-analysis and imagination, ask yourself the following questions:
- Who are the people who will be on your funeral? Is it family, business associates, people whose lives you have touched and changed?
- What will everyone say about you?
- Did you provide well?
- Where you generous?
- What memories will they share about you?
By analyzing the potential responses from your funeral attendees, you can create a picture of the contributing factors to your personal success. Within this framework you can create a picture in terms of career aspirations, qualifications and other life goals.
Applying The Principle of Balance in Personal Success
While defining your personal success mission statement, you must allow the Principle of Balance to guide you. This principle simply focuses on finding and keeping a balance between the various elements making up your success story.
For example: It is not wrong to make lots of money, if it is part of your personal success measures. This the balance in for this goal is the simultaneous provision of a loving home for your children or being a present and faithful wife or husband to your spouse. By applying the Principle of Balance in personal success, you can build your legacy. Failure or being unsuccessful is to have an unbalanced approach, achieving in one area at the expense of another important area.
The Principle of Balance provides a continuous measuring mechanism to measure your success as you progress. Personal success is not something you look back on at the end of your life with either regret or a sense of achievement; it is something you can experience on an ongoing basis. Balance allows you to constantly evaluate your success or the lack thereof in striving to achieve your predefined measures.
The Principle of Balance will keep you from falling into the trap of reacting on the feeling of success or, as is many times the case, the lack thereof. You will be able to progressively move toward your designed legacy, living a successful life and leaving a complete picture of your personal legacy.
Designing personal success is not always easy. Sometimes you have to let go in one area to get the balance in your life right. The fruit of living a personally successful life is however priceless.
What measures do you have to take to create balance in your life and live more successfully?